“Sister is probably the most competitive relationship within the family, but once the sisters are grown, it becomes the strongest relationship.” Margaret Mead
When I saw this week’s quote, it summed up an important milestone in my life this week.
My sister and I were never close growing up. We were “unmanaged” as children, and it’s probably safe to say, we just didn’t like each other very much. A few years ago, the relationship went from neutral to toxic and we stopped talking altogether.
After hitting bottom, for some reason, a healing started taking place. We worked on getting along. Little by little, a foundation of trust was built and our love and affection for each other grew.
My sister came to stay with me for a week as she was getting ready to sell her house. Before her trip, she sent me a text that said, “Selling a house is stressful, I need my big sister.” That one text meant everything to me as it was the first time that she ever said she needed me.
When I told her how much her text meant to me, she said she wasn’t sure how I would react, because she never said those words before. It was a moment.
The lesson here? If you have a difficult relationship with someone in your family, consider what it would take to turn it around. Sometimes it takes fifty years for change to happen. When it does, I promise you, it is magic. I’m very grateful for having the sister I’ve always wanted.
PS – I’m not talking about pursuing toxic relationships. There are people who you really are better not having in your life. I’m talking about taking a negative, shallow, or neutral relationship and looking for ways to create a stronger, more loving bond.
PSS – I’m here for you and I appreciate you!